What should i b ready for?

Just_R
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Re: What should i b ready for?

Postby Just_R » Wed Aug 17, 2016 3:21 pm

Another thing you should not forget about - is how will you raise your kid when he will grow up, and will start asking questions "Where is my mom?" et cetera. You need to have the answers prepared beforehand, else way, when the kid will not see complete awareness and certainty in your answers, he may start to feel itself defective in comparison with other children. More then that, these kids, from the straight families, they might bully him about the fact that his parents are gays. that does happen all the time, and that does leave a deep scar on the kids psychics.
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Easton
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Re: What should i b ready for?

Postby Easton » Fri Aug 19, 2016 5:24 pm

i think that it is very difficult because if you are not prepared and you get the child yo will be very stressed and depressed because of it. sometimes you want to spend some time alone but you do not have an opportunity to do it. it is very bad. i think that you understand that you have to be prepared physically as well, you have to be always with your child, you will not have enough time for sleep an d you will always tired ad exhausted. you have to know how to make all the chores together with the child. i am not a dad but i have heard a lot of stories about it. :roll: :roll:
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Re: What should i b ready for?

Postby Williams » Sat Sep 17, 2016 12:55 pm

you shall not expect that you will look good and feel fresh. even in perfect families parents face a lot of difficulties. because it is very hard to take care of the child even if you have the person who helps you in it. you have to understand that you would never have the same life as you had , but it would be much more interesting happy and of course better. the child becomes a part of your family and is the person whom you are responsible for. but try to pay attention to your partner as well, you are not only the parent but also a husband and you partner definitely needs your attention as well.
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Re: What should i b ready for?

Postby Just_R » Mon Sep 19, 2016 8:41 pm

Williams wrote:you are not only the parent but also a husband and you partner definitely needs your attention as well.

I think you did write it already - or am I mistaken?:) By the way - I am not completely agree with you that " shall not expect that you will look good and feel fresh." i do know lot of couples - who managed to look good and fresh even after having twins.. the thing is that you need to prepare yourself for the kids well - to organize your schedule, et cetera. It's all about the time management.. You will have to forget about some things, of course, such as entertainment - at least part of it. But in the same time your life is tot going to change that strongly as you are expecting.
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Re: What should i b ready for?

Postby Benjamin123 » Tue Jul 25, 2017 8:11 pm

I am glad to be registered here on this website!!! I am in a good mood today)))) and you??? I am a father as I have mentioned, I am A father of son and now we are waiting for a new baby. I hope that everything will be okey and we will be happy fathers of two babies. Of course without any words it is difficult but in any case we will cope with it because we had been waiting for baby for a long time. So that's why these difficulties are only pleasure for us.0you should be ready for everything but if you want it, you will cope.
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Re: What should i b ready for?

Postby Kreg32 » Tue Aug 01, 2017 8:22 pm

well you shall get ready to new time in your life. I really know it to the full because I have only one child but in general I can tell you that it is really very different and of course for some parents it is not hard and for some it is really very hard and that is why I think that you shall be ready to everything and you shall think about everything. I think that you understand what I am talking about and you shall get used to it. For me parenting is not hard and I can not tell that it is really very stressful or something like that. It is not a problem for anyone i think that you can be happy about parenting.
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Re: What should i b ready for?

Postby MORAN » Tue Sep 12, 2017 6:55 pm

I think that you need just be ready for everything. Because this is very responsible to be good father and you all the tme need just pay attention on the possibility to treat your child in the great way. I think that you all the time need just pay all this infornation in the mind and yu all the time will find something for you. BECAUSE you need just follow all the wants of your child and you will know what he really want to get from the life. I thinkthat you need jsut keep all the informaton in the mind and try to make the life of your child really good and positve and full of the great and posiive impressions and moments.
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Re: What should i b ready for?

Postby Lui » Tue Nov 28, 2017 7:24 am

I think that being a father is just something fantastic and brilliant. You can not imagine these feelings when you are father. I want to agree with one post where is telling that you should be ready for the reaction of the society. In my opinion, this is the first thing that the gay father should be ready for.. It is true that all the child care is the thing that was practised by the enormous amount of generations, and there are no secrets in it. Moreover be ready to difficulties in surrogacy process. It is not something easy I think
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Re: What should i b ready for?

Postby Max76 » Thu Jan 25, 2018 12:20 pm

Do not be afraid. Be sure that your dad's heart will tell you how to do the best everything. My son is almost two years old. I do not regret about becoming a father. I have been dreaming about it during the whole life for sure. You should be ready that not all people are ready to accept such experience, but you should not be afraid of it. Do not pay attention to any difficulties because it is just your life and you have all rights to do what you want. if you are worried about duties, so try to share everything equally with your beloved one
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Re: What should i b ready for?

Postby Felix » Mon Feb 19, 2018 8:22 am

You say that you do not know what to expect, and I know how are you feeling now. I think that is a lack of modern society.
We are using to think more about ourselves,and put our own interests on the first place in all the situations. I think that you afraid that the child will take the part of your comfort zone, as the psychologist call that, and you are loosing confidence in yourself. You should not be afraid of that. I wrote in the previous post, that all the commitments and the responsibility, that come to your life with the baby, they are not something unnatural and alien in your life.

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