Hello everybody! Today I want to talk about true love in our lives. Each of us meets his soul mate or some random guy in the world and feels sympathy. After a while, we begin to feel something more if our relationship continues. After some time, we can have a serious relationship that will turn into a real family. But who knows how to distinguish true love? Many of us got severe pain and problems simply because they believed their partner. And they did not attempt to distinguish their feelings of true love. How can we do this? What is true love for each of you? I think this issue will help us to make less mistakes in personal life ...
Love - is a state of the head, and can be, and the heart, when the level of positive qualities in the chosen one increases, as if under a magnifying glass, and the level of negative - reduces the speed of light. Love - is an idealization. And if we fall in love, it does not in person, but we invented the ideal man. You know the expression: "As if a veil fell from the eyes?" So, it - about love. After all, when we begin to see a lot of the shortcomings of man, which to a certain point did not notice at all, then we cease to feel that love felt. I think that true love helps us to not see many weaknesses to each other and just love and enjoy each other.
An interesting fact is that the stronger the inner loneliness of man, the more he falls in love. Perhaps the inner loneliness and contributes to inventing different kinds of ideals. After all, there are people who believe that they must have a perfect leader, perfect husband and the perfect child. But thinking so the person does not usually have neither the first nor the second, nor the third, and are in constant conflict with the environment. In the true love there are periods of both lifting and recession, but the love lives a maximum of two years, and after the first year of scandals, mutual accusations and quarrels.
And the first sign by which you can learn in love - holding hands, showing a subconscious fear of losing what is available. Apparently, the truth say: "If you want someone to love you, you must first love yourself." Otherwise, the lot will be eternal love. Have you ever noticed that a lot of people met their spouse at work, at the gym or at a concert of your favorite singer? The essence of affection that a man and other man psychologically bring together two of the daily return to work or riding trips on weekends. Affection is, in fact, the habit to see the person and talk to him in due time. Sometimes we confuse true love with affection.
From affection comes a lot of marriages, because nothing brings people together like a common cause. But we must remember that the attachment will take place, if a man and another man will no longer do something together. That is, when one spouse goes to work in another company, organization, kindly come up with a new joint activity. For example, it could be a joint dinner nightly cooking. Then, such a relationship will break down after a while. And both spouses will be stunned. They will not understand what is happening and why. I think that is another option, where some people are confused true love with affection.
Passion. It is common among young men in relation to the movie stars and music. However, the enthusiasm may be projected on the people who are close by. For example, the same Alex after he forgets about his passion for any musician can also like the fact that his new neighbor, John plays the guitar or keyboard very well. You can get excited about a talented poet and writer, and put on a field of his work all yourself, how often, and do the spouses of famous literary figures. And you can get excited about third-chess player and sincerely consider it an unrecognized genius. After all, at the heart of passion is always sincere admiration for any human abilities and talents.
Emotional contact. Psychologists say that this feeling is the closest thing to what is commonly called love people, or rather true love. Emotional contact - is a relationship with the very essence of man, with his inner self, but not with the ego. Listen to the sounds of your favorite tunes - that melody, music without words. How old is it you already like? How many new shades of sound you find in it over the years? What is the range of feelings you experience, you hear it? That's just all happening and emotional contact with the person. To explain this complicated words. It can only be experienced. The relationship based on emotional contact, psychologists call intrinsic relationship.
Love comes slowly, love - fast. Love grows and growth takes time. Love, as usual, as if dumped on his head. Indeed, to know a person, I met him only a few times, it is impossible. Many people wear a mask, and you can not know immediately that hide under it. Some manage to hide the true face up to the wedding, and after already appear in its true light. Know that it is good to know a person takes time - months, maybe years. Many of you have heard the expression, "Love at first sight". But this does not happen. Possible sympathy at first sight, an unusual arrangement at a glance. But no more.
You can feel a strong attraction to a person you just met, but, despite its strength, it is the attraction surface. It looks at love through the eyes, in the actions in response. But to really love a person, you have to go a long way. Love goes slowly. Love - flies. See this Only those who have already gone through the novel. We can ask: "How long it lasted and how long it took to stop him?" If the strengthening of true love takes time, love ends, practically, as well as beginners - fast, but with one exception. It does not disappear instantly, if you maintain sexual relations. Sex complicated emotional response.
Those who love, do not leave not because of common interests, but because of the sex. About love then we can not say. In the center of love - is always the same people, the same sympathy is able to accommodate a few. Anyone who feels sympathy can "love" at the same time two or more people. Let's say a guy in love with two men, one mature, reliable and responsible person, and the other reckless spendthrift, a lover of fun. The guy said that he could not choose someone one. But true love chooses one person, in which he sees and finds valuable for him and no longer looking for another.
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