Just_R wrote:Yes Paul, we should loo for it! How else we can learn the lesson and get the experience from these relations?
I think that you misunderstood me. I know what does it mean not to wear the pink glasses. If there is a mistake, on your side or on the side of your partner, you must notice it and analyse. By the "search for the guilt" I mean the paranoid habit to make an "autopsy" of the relations, if they are dead or even still alive. that only leads to more mistakes, in my opinion. Especially when you are trying to do that even before something bad really happened on the relations. And many people really act that way. Then, when they look back to their past - they understand, what fools they've been.