Ben_Roar wrote: the question is about some "goal" that you are trying to reach for sometime
And if to approach the situation from this point of view, you need to be considerate, and understand, if that is the right p[person for reaching of that foal, or no. We are speaking of the feelings here, of course. But, unfortunately, as all the other things in our lives, it all does come to the trivial logics and common sense. I think you should restrain yourself from making the emotional bonds with the person , whom you are not sure about. One female friend of mine told me, that it is just the attitude, that women are calling "bitchy") But I think it is simply based on the common sense.