You are welcome to have a small talk here
You are welcome to have a small talk here
In no case do not need every day to scold her husband about his condition at the moment. The main task here - to send a person stumbling on the right path. It is impossible to turn a serious conversation about family problems and alcoholism in playful fun, or the scene of hysteria. It will only help the facts stated sober, in a calm atmosphere and without any extra nerves. It is necessary to explain the man that alcoholism and family - concepts incompatible. It destroys one another. A man devoted to drinking, in addition, that creates a problem for your family enjoys. I think it is obvious anyway.
Getting drunk, people are often trying to attract such a way to get attention. Classical was the situation when the woman, whose husband is an alcoholic, "coddling" with him. As soon as my husband gets drunk again, she immediately begins to wail, to try to put him to bed, pick up from the street, strip and give him other tokens. When her husband sober, his partner did not seem to notice it. He begins to think that he was the least of his loving him, that he was in this family once. His conscience tells him to get drunk, to get away from all the problems. But the subconscious mind pushes it to the next wine party precisely because of lack of attention, even though the family does not solve the problem of alcoholism.
It is at an early stage, when it has not yet become serious, it is important to give a decisive battle drunkenness is not cruel methods of terror, but to try to solve the problem with the help of so-called soft power. It is better to give your significant other more love, help him in everyday affairs, to make a compliment about his new hairstyle old, asked husband to fix the socket, and then praise for a job well done. And family relationships will improve, and the drinking problem will be solved by itself. Quite often there are cases when a person drinks, the other seems to be doing everything to stop the first, but the results are only short-term.
It's all about our passion to obtain awards. Human thinking is arranged like the other animals, and in fact is not so far away from them is gone. If a person does something right and the other is a note he enjoys as from soft drugs. Each subsequent time the person wants to get more and more fun. Thus there is dependence on certain types of pleasure. Now consider the specific situation of life on a topic such as alcoholism and family. Man begins to gradually enter into the bout. The second half sees this and takes preventive action: strongly condemns drunk, he tries to explain that alcoholism and the family are incompatible.
Naturally, that an alcoholic can not exist alone. What happens next? And then drunk at the time of "ties" with drinking becomes exemplary, asks the other half back, says compliments, is doing everything to prove that his half doing everything right, because it is always good, the whole house is kept on it. Thus, the victim receives a "reward" in the form of praise, satisfaction, and some result. But why the result is a short-term? The man who seemed to be suffering from an alcoholic, no longer receives for a long time, those "awards" and starts them in dire need. As a result, sometimes without even noticing it, alcoholics victim stimulate them, instigate a new binge. Then history repeats itself. These families are not uncommon.
Having succeeded, that is, to make a person stop drinking, even for a short time, making it clear to him that alcoholism and the family can not be combined, and in making it really to believe even for a moment, you can proceed to the next stage of struggle - the strengthening of success. First of all you need to forget about the word alcohol in the house. This problem does not apply to house more. In no event it is impossible to arrange holidays with drinking alcoholic beverages. We need the best possible way to protect just set foot on the path of correction rights. I think this is very important.
Be sure to try to take all the free time of former drinkers. It may be some concerns around the house, play with the children, perform important tasks. Do not forget to mark the right steps to fix the human side. We should not support attempts to talk about any accidents pleasure from drinking alcohol, it is necessary in every way to stop them. Very good help is not easy to forget the dark period of family life, but also to give a new purpose in life, interested in partner joint exercise. It can be any of the types. The main thing is that the family spend their free time together, so it was not aimlessly, and activities captured.
Drunkenness and alcoholism - a traditional divorce motive in all developed countries, has consistently ranked first among the causes of divorce. Filed by the World Health Organization, alcoholism in various countries suffer from 2 to 10% of the population. Of course, that domestic drunkenness and alcoholism affect the conjugal and family life, to family members, on the education of children, as well as on employment and social behavior. Many researchers tend to regard alcoholism as a typical sociopathy, because this disease is quite different and has a different origin than any other medical conditions, including mental.
Alcoholism is a typical addiction, formed on the basis of fairly regular drinking for a number of years. Chronic alcoholism should be distinguished from household drunkenness, which is caused by situational moments, parenting defects, low culture, moral laxity. If the combat domestic drinking enough public exposure measures, chronic alcoholism, which leads to mental disorders and a variety of other diseases needing medical treatment. The alcoholism as drug addiction, according to experts, can result from alcohol abuse from 1-2 to 15-20 years or more, depending on gender, age, degree of mental and somatic disorders, the individual characteristics of the individual drinker.
Unfortunately, domestic drinking is closely related to the prevailing customs and traditions in holding any celebrations, holidays, low cultural level of relaxation and leisure, with the inability of people to occupy themselves. Domestic drinking also contributes to a high degree of tolerance on the part of the public and all citizens. The danger of alcohol is that it alters the state of mind, supposedly temporarily raising the tone, mood, and eventually leads to loss of self-control. In recent decades there have been significant changes among those suffering from alcoholism. Basically, the overwhelming majority of patients with chronic alcoholism are men, but if at the beginning of the XX century.
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