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Tomislav
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gay best friend

Postby Tomislav » Sun Jun 19, 2016 10:01 am

We all need best friend but not all of us actually do have him. The friend who, aside from being totally hot, knows you like the back of his/her hand, offering sage insightful advice and is always there to help you pick up the pieces after a dating disaster. While cultivating a friendship should happen organically, there are a few ways to identify and nurture a close relationship with someone who will hopefully become your new gay bestie. So it means that we should work hard to find best friend... I mean it is not that we should not dwell on it but still we should be attentive... Tell us about your best friend? And how can we find our own GBF?
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Jared
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Re: gay best friend

Postby Jared » Sun Jun 19, 2016 1:56 pm

Take your time in finding your GBF and look for someone who “gets you”. Treat your search as you would do for any friend-seeking mission by being open-minded, available to talk, non-judgmental and thoughtful. Moreover, bear in mind that, as with any friendship, you cannot force a relationship. Trying to tie down someone as your GBF by being overbearing and pushy will result in someone getting hurt and someone feeling used. Your friendship must be gradual, organic and a good click between the two of you.
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Re: gay best friend

Postby Morningstar » Sun Jun 19, 2016 4:40 pm

Develop a relationship that is a two-way street. On TV and in films, the relationship seems to be all about one character and how her/his gay friend is always coming to the rescue. Obviously real life relationships don’t work like that, so when it comes to your new friendship, treat it as you would any other relationship.Be a good listener. After you bemoan the fact that the dresses at the Golden Globes were awful this year, listen to what he/she has to say about life (or the fashion). Perhaps your friend is going through a tough time or is trying to work out his/her own relationship issues. Remember that it’s a give and take relationship, with your supportive input being just as vital.
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Re: gay best friend

Postby LoganE » Sun Jun 19, 2016 4:43 pm

Look, I have found an interesting information))) If you want to find you gay best friend understand that all gay people aren’t the same. Before you embark upon this epic search, consider the fact that just because a guy or gal is gay, it doesn’t mean he or she fits nicely into a certain stereotype. Just like straight people, you're going to find manly men who are gay and soft, feminine girls who prefer the ladies as well, and individuals who love or detest fashion, finance or fishing, or whatever else it is you're hoping they're keen on. Even if you believe you must have that flamboyant gay man to be your GBF, consider first the person inside––what you are looking for is a soul mate friend, not a decorative accessory. Whatever you're looking for in your GBF, your relationship must be a mutually beneficial one. While you might be seeking fashion or relationship advice, witty conversation and self-esteem boosting or any other sources of support, your GBF is also looking for your support and advice. Be prepared to love, spoil and defend your GBF. Nobody likes a condescending person who thinks that anyone who knows them should feel grateful. If this is your underlying motivation, any friendship you form will be doomed to fail.
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Re: gay best friend

Postby Shannon » Sun Jun 19, 2016 5:49 pm

Don’t stereotype. Just because your new bud is gay doesn’t mean its all about lipstick, dresses and drag. He or she may find those topics amusing but most likely will want to explore other topics with you as well. He or she may even insist on talking about car engines and chicken wings, so be ready for any possibility with an open mind.Take an interest in his/her passions or dreams. One of the great aspects of friendship is sharing common interests while also learning more about other follies in life. For example if he/she is a marathon runner, be the number one cheerleader at the finish line or attempt to enter one yourself. Or, if beach clean-up efforts are your friend’s passion, be the first one at the beach with rake in hand.
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Re: gay best friend

Postby Sheldon » Sun Jun 19, 2016 8:02 pm

The cat is out of the bag, so to speak, i.e., gay men are very aware that more and more women, married and single, are openly searching for a GBF. Nor, truth be told, is this a one-way street. Take it from a gay man: we are just as eager to meet that special woman and, should our stars be in their courses, actually realize our dream to become her Gay Best Friend. However, we are wary of being auditioned, as if we're being hired to play a gay man in a story. We don't want to be a woman's gay accessory, her gay trophy. We want the friendship to be about more than our gayness (although our gayness is very much integral to the friendship). As a gay man, I want a fulfilling and lasting friendship with a straight woman; one which grows and deepens naturally, out of mutual interests and respect.
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Re: gay best friend

Postby MARK » Mon Jun 20, 2016 8:32 am

I have many gay friends because we have many similar interests. WE need develop a relationship that is a two-way street. To meet new people and make good friends, you’ll need to be where people are interacting on a social level. The first step is to walk through the door and out into the world. When you get out to places where there's a good likelihood of meeting and interacting with people in a social context, you've already put yourself on the right track.To find good friends, you should get involved with things that you like do, so that if you do meet someone, you'll have the same interests.
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Re: gay best friend

Postby MARK » Mon Jun 20, 2016 8:33 am

I have many gay friends because we have many similar interests. WE need develop a relationship that is a two-way street. To meet new people and make good friends, you’ll need to be where people are interacting on a social level. The first step is to walk through the door and out into the world. When you get out to places where there's a good likelihood of meeting and interacting with people in a social context, you've already put yourself on the right track.To find good friends, you should get involved with things that you like do, so that if you do meet someone, you'll have the same interests.
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Re: gay best friend

Postby JerryLee » Thu Jun 23, 2016 11:35 am

I guess the best friend for gay is another gay)))))) Even if you believe you must have that flamboyant gay man to be your GBF, consider first the person inside––what you are looking for is a soul mate friend, not a decorative accessory. Whatever you're looking for in your GBF, your relationship must be a mutually beneficial one. While you might be seeking fashion or relationship advice, witty conversation and self-esteem boosting or any other sources of support, your GBF is also looking for your support and advice. Be prepared to love, spoil and defend your GBF. Nobody likes a condescending person who thinks that anyone who knows them should feel grateful. If this is your underlying motivation, any friendship you form will be doomed to fail.
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Re: gay best friend

Postby MORAN » Thu Jun 23, 2016 1:45 pm

Hi guys. Before you embark upon this epic search, consider the fact that just because a guy , it doesn’t mean he fits nicely into a certain stereotype. Just like straight people, you're going to find manly men who are gay and soft, and individuals who love or detest fashion, finance or fishing, or whatever else it is you're hoping they're keen on. Even if you believe you must have that flamboyant gay man to be your GBF, consider first the person inside––what you are looking for is a soul mate friend, not a decorative accessory. Nobody likes a condescending person who thinks that anyone who knows them should feel grateful.

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