Ben_Roar wrote:Or, at least, I would not burn down all the bridges to retreat.
Yes - that would be silly indeed. the bad thing is that when some people see their partners do not do that, they do start to think that these partners do not have enough confidence in their relations - and they start to make a problem of that. I think that is the crest of being selfish. When you are only thinking about how you feel. there are always things, even between the lovers - that must not be discussed. That may sound strange - especially from such a person as I am, but even in my relations we do have an unspoken agreement not to speak about some things.