Just_R wrote:and they can (they must!) make their own decisions
Did not you ever help your friend, when he felt bad? I am not speaking about the people who are moaning about something all their life. I mean.. We all do have hard times in life. And if your friends would behave like that - what kind of friends are they? I always help in such situations.. If people are asking me, even not straight, about some encouragement and consolation - I never refuse. I did ask for this help myself for many times - and now I am strong enough to answer with the same service to other people. I think that is my duty. And the duty of all the people in the society.