First of all it depends from the age of a child. As for me, I dont think that it's a problem. I will repeat the phrase, which you can hear in many films - parent is not the one who has given birth, but those who brought up. So - show all your love and care, don't nervous, and the child will love you with all his heart
If I am going to adopt the kid, I am going to adopt the baby - and we are not going to have problems of that kind. i think this is the best choice.Of course, I do feel pity about the kids of all the ages, but when you are making the adoption - you need to ask yourself a question "Will i handle this", "Isn't it too much for me?". you have to be sure in the positive answer on those, because by the act of the adoption you are taking the full responsibility for the child's fate, and for yours as well. For the fate of your family - husband, the kid you might already have. this is not a decision you can change afterwards.. You can of course, but I would not imagine such a silly man that would do like that - to adopt the child - and then to reject it.
Paul_O wrote:You can of course, but I would not imagine such a silly man that would do like that - to adopt the child - and then to reject it.
I do not think that is possible , in Europe or US, at least, if to keep in mind , how long does it take to go trough the adoption process. that is made that way on purpose - for many purposes - and one of them is for the parents to make sure they are making the right choice. The parents and the kid are getting used to each other, they start to have the family relations. and if they see that everything does go well - when the adoption committee does see that - then they give the permission for the adoption, not earlier then that. So I do not think there can be situations of the kind that you've mentioned)
Andreas_Maroon wrote:I do not think that is possible , in Europe or US, at least,
that is not possible. I mean - such a precedent can have a place, but I cannot imagine people who would be stupid or careless enough to get to this situation. Just for you to know - they would have to pay a huge penalty, if they would reject the kid afterwards. i wrote about this already - me and my husband - we refused of the thought to adopt another child right now - and we do not know when we will come back to this question again. It is good that we understood we were wrong now - while all was still on the stage of planning. But still I am pissed off to know that I have less brains than I experted.
Ben_Roar wrote:But still I am pissed off to know that I have less brains than I experted.
you have more brains then most part of people on this forum, Ben, and I am glad that I do have the possibility to communicate here with you. I would gladly borrow some of your brains actually - because the way of thinking that you do have and your experience would do really good for me in some situations that I have had in my life these recent years. And this situation with the adoption - not many people can understand they need to stop on this early stage that you did, so you can be proud of yourself and your decision. I am glad that you solved this problem.
I really do not think that it is kind of difficult, especially when a child is of small or young age it is very easy to make him or her happy and at least they will used to you. But you have ti think twice before getting a teenager from orphanage because teenagers already have their own opinion on eveturhing and sometimes it is diffucult to assure them.
if to be honest i am not really sure about that you know.... i have no my own kids and never considered the situation, when i get a child in a marriage and then after happening something realy terrible, love vanishes or some kind of bad cheating.. we separate and our kid, who had to make our ife happy becomes a person who has to suffer, just because his or her parents cannot find mutual understanding, language.. i cannot believe tat such terrifing situation can happen to me. however i guess if one parent loves a kid sooo much, the kid wi still have great life
i do not ven know. i think that form the one hand yes, it may be really very hard to make the child happy when his biological parents left him. but at the same time it depends on the age of the child. of course it is an older child and he understands everything then i think that it would be almost impossible to do it because he would never love you as he would love his own parents. i think that i am right. but if you really love the child and you really try to make the child happy then i think that you would succeed because you are doing it with your heart. i wish you good luck in it.
Good afternoon my friends. Dear listeners and attentive readers, are you ready to have nice talk together with me today??I think that it is not difficult if you will give the most important and simple things for your baby. I want to say that first of all you should love your baby and support in any situations!!!! Also I would like to say that it is necessary to remember about care. take care about your baby as much as it is possible. More than agree with you guys that we should pay attention to your baby and understand everything.
Hey there guys. How are you doing friends?? Are you ready to start this day from our conversation??ii also think that it is very big stress and depression for the child and he would always be afraid of the possibility that you would leave him as well. Of course it would be difficult for you to make him happy but you would succeed in it and everything would be alright. But imagine the situation how this kid will be happy when he knows you present for him family. I think that children always happy when they are accepted in a new family.
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